Something is breaking between men and women

Hey,

I don't know if you follow Diary of a CEO but something came up on there recently that shocked me to my core. The suggestion that society should "intervene" for men who can't find partners. Let that sink in for a second. The idea that women essentially owe men companionship, framed as a serious societal concern. On one of the biggest podcasts in the world.

And honestly? That was the moment I knew Ben and I had to record this episode.

Because that clip did not exist in a vacuum. It exists in a world where girls are outperforming boys in almost every subject at school, yet men still hold the vast majority of power. Where women are initiating 69% of divorces. Where a whole corner of the internet, the manosphere, is radicalising young men into believing women are the enemy. And where violence against women and girls is rising at a rate that should terrify all of us. Not to mention the Epstien files which takes the abuse of young women and girls by powerful men to another level. 

Let's call it what it is. Something is fundamentally breaking between men and women right now. And it is not just playing out online. It is in our politics, our culture, and in our homes.

We got into all of it. The Diary of a CEO controversy. Why Paris Paloma's song "Labour" became an anthem for millions of exhausted women. The data behind the gender divide that nobody wants to say out loud. And the question that keeps coming up but nobody seems willing to answer honestly, if patriarchy is failing everyone, what actually replaces it?

This episode is a big one. Because this is not a simple conversation and anyone pretending it is, is part of the problem.

Here is what I know though. This is not a men versus women issue, even though it feels like one. The system is failing both. Men are lonely, lost, and being sold rage instead of purpose. Women are exhausted, unsafe, and done with being told to be patient. And if you are in a relationship right now, these dynamics are not just something you scroll past. They are sitting at your kitchen table.

This episode is one you need to listen to together. Put it on in the car, on a walk, after the kids are in bed. Because the conversation we are all avoiding is the one that matters most.

Listen here

With love,

Nichole & Ben x

P.S. If you are raising sons, there is a section of this episode you really need to hear. I am not going to give it away here but it changed how Ben and I are thinking about what we are modelling at home. That alone is worth pressing play.